How to ask someone to be your friend?

(Saudi Arabi - Jeddah)

How to ask someone to be your friend. If I would like to ask somebody to be my friend can I say :
Can we be friends?

Yes you can! It is perfectly correct to say "Can we be friends?" There are several ways to ask this question:

*Would you like to be friends?
*Want to be my friend?
*Could we be friends? (A bit more polite or shy)
*Do you want to be friends (with me)?
*Are we friends? (If you wan to confirm your friendship)

Those are just some of the ways that you can ask someone if they would like to be friends with you.

Does anyone else know of other ways to ask someone to be their friends? Leave a comment and let’s compare what you think! -Diana

Update: Although this is grammatically correct, we don't usually directly ask someone to be our friend. It just happens. :)

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Sep 27, 2013
by: Anonymous

Hi , I met this really cool person in school . I am very shy to ask her to be my friend . She has a lot of friends and she is kind .

Jan 11, 2013
by: Monica

I really want to be Friends and I get shy when asking people stuff. What do I do?She's really cool and funny but I can't tell if she wants to be friends. Should I ask her or just wait? I met her at school.

Jun 23, 2011
Friends and Coworkers...
by: Anonymous

What if the person i want to be friends with is at a work place?

I spent some time with a person and it seemed nice and talked and laughed. But its in a work place so how can i show that i want to be friends.
Thanks for the advice.

I would say meeting outside of work is the best way to show you want to be friends, rather than just co-workers. You could suggest you meet up for coffee, lunch or even better doing an activity that you both enjoy.

You could go to the gym, swimming, bike riding...anything that you would both enjoy and give you a chance to get out of the office and create a friendship based on common likes or hobbies. -Diana

May 28, 2010
by: Hannah

I'm going to Portugal and I like to met and get to know people.

Jan 15, 2009
by: Anonymous


Jan 15, 2009
Is it natural?
by: PBF

Thanks for raising this up, Jeddah.

Hi Diana,

I was just wondering, if is it is natural in real life that you to ask a person if you could be friends? If so, would people say this the first time they meet? Thank you

Hi PBF, GOOD QUESTION! I was going to mention this in my first response but I didn't. I should have! So here it is. Asking someone directly to be your friend is NOT natural.

It is a little strange to ask someone directly to be friends. It usually just happens. You just spend time with new people and gradually become friends. There is no real need to ask directly. Thanks for asking that awesome question!

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